Posted in Prayer, Ministry, 2020

Come Away

As I read the book of Luke, I find many times after Jesus has performed miracles, gathered with others, or made decisions as in appointing His disciples, “He often withdrew to the wilderness to pray.” (Luke 5:16 TLB)

You can find many scriptures in Luke that will reveal the times Jesus “Went away to pray.” In my daily reading, here are a few scriptures that spoke clearly to my spirit.
Luke 5:16
Luke 6: 12-13
Luke 9:10

It’s vital as we minister the gospel of Jesus Christ to others to “Come Away” and spend some quiet time with God. We find in the Bible, Jeremiah 33:3, when God says, “Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.”  It’s here, in our intimate time with the Lord, that we can rest in His presence and receive from Him alone without interference and the business of life.

Over the years, before ministering to one person or many people, I have learned to seek God and ask Him, “Lord, what do you want?” just as Jesus did before appointing His twelve disciples. In Luke 6, verses 12 and 13, it reads, “One day soon afterwards he went out into the mountains to pray, and prayed all night. At daybreak he called together his followers and chose twelve of them to be the inner circle of his disciples.” It’s when we have important decisions to make or ministry to administer that we must “Come Away” with Jesus to seek His will in the situation.

I have learned never to rush to judgment or to return to the ministry field until God has released me. There have been times when I came out of my secret place with Jesus too soon. I’m reminded of Psalms 91: 1, which reads, “Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.” It’s in that space we get our next assignment with instructions from the Lord.

Allow me to encourage you to seek Christ first – spend time with Him in prayer before ministering to others. Ask, “God, what are You speaking?” “What do you desire?” Then after you have ministered, return to God and be filled once again with His holy power.

Being “Ready to Pray,” one must go deeper into the Word of the Lord. As we get better acquainted with the Word of God, the Bible, we grow to know God better and gain wisdom and revelation knowledge to pray in accordance with His will.

For me, I still away with Jesus sitting on fluffy pillows with soft orchestra music playing and candles burning. This brings a calm atmosphere and an opportunity to hear from God through His still small voice.

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Posted in 2020, Empowerment, Getting To The Root of It, Ministry

Getting To The Root of It

Woke up this morning and decided I’m doing another round of Getting To The Root of It. Want to join me?

Even if you don’t have the book, follow and like my page www.Facebook.com/GailSpeaks and get the daily prompters and information for each day of the 49-days along with a prayer.

If you want the book, it is a 8.5 x 11 workbook filled with content and prompters. It’s a workbook. I’ll say it again…it’s a workbook. If you want to get to the root of things, complete the pages each day for 49-days. Yes, it cover the enter 40-days of Lent.

What readers are saying…

“Gail, this piece is so powerful that I must alert all who embark upon this journey to be truly ready for real freedom from bondage and strongholds. It took me several days to address the “call to action” day one encouraged. I was moved to unmask, undress, unfriend, and unapologetically forgive myself and others for hurts I thought were dealt with, yet were merely suppressed so deep that I remained paralyzed in time unable to progress in an authentic walk through life. I knew then this process would ultimately propel me to become a healthier me. I had to confirm my decision to face head-on anything that posed a threat to this endeavor as there can be nothing more important. One must also be unashamed, brave, and fearless to reap the pure benefits that getting to the root of it offers.”

[Dr. Kim Carter, The Igniter]

“This study is so empowering. God is so good as He gently opens eyes in what needs to be discovered and exposed. Women will be so blessed by your work. The impact on marriages and individual lives will be plentiful. I have learned even after a few short weeks that God wants to intervene, heal, and bring freedom where darkness once was. He is waiting if we call on Him. Praise God for your obedience in crafting this study.

This study is immeasurable. I cannot describe how God opened my eyes and helped me through countless situations. The study was an absolute blessing. From the very first page, I thought if this were just a little different with examples of men from the Bible, this would work for husbands too. You could easily have a sequel for men. This study has given me more faith and grit to be able to help pray over my husband. Satan has worked overtime on my family during this study. This study has given me stronger legs to stand firm on the promises and blessings that I believe God will pour out and restore. I can have a supernatural joy that only comes from God, my father. I think God is saying through this study to come as you are. No appointment needed. He is always waiting. Arms open wide. He says to us, run my child. I am right here. The study strengthened my faith despite what circumstances may look like at the moment.”

[Melissa H., Iowa]

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Posted in 2020, Empowerment, Husbands, Marriage, wives

It’s Complicated, or Is it?

Reading a post “Why are so many Christian Marriages Falling Apart” on social media, shared by a friend, got me thinking.

 

Being who I am, I could not sit without responding, especially after writing and publishing a book entitled, “Who Told You That?” The Truth About the Lies. I had to say something.  WhoToldUThat_COVER

 

So, I responded.

 

Here’s the challenge: People believe the lie that marriage is two half people coming together to make one. We say things like, “This is my other half.” That’s the problem. Marriage takes two whole people. We cannot come into a marriage with only half of our self. 

 

{This ended my response}

 

My husband and I deal with this situation all the time when we are counseling married couples. 

 

After we counsel the couple together, we separate them, and of course, I talk with the wife, and he talks with the husband. It never fails, I hear the wife tell me that he completes her, she wants to meet his every need, and that she needs him. I sit there and pray silently as she talks. I tell the wife all the time, “Get a life. Get some friends.” I also share with the wife that she cannot meet his every need. Without hesitation, I look her in her eyes and say, “Sister, you do not need him. You’re in a partnership as husband and wife.” It never fails. She looks at me perplexed, and if I’m honest, she’s looking at me as if I have lost my mind.  

 

Then I meet briefly with the husband, and my husband meets briefly with the wife. During our conversation, I learn that the husband is usually stressed with his wife, depending upon him for everything. Yes, I said, “Everything.” I had one husband say to me that he feels an extreme weight on his shoulders. After all, he knows he cannot fulfill all of his wife’s needs and fears that he would lose her because he cannot carry everything for her. IMG_F576D96999F8-1

 

As I shared in a YouTube video not long ago, I encourage women to have a life; a life that is pleasing in the sight of God. Yes, love your husband. Spend time with him. Be with him. However, have a life that you live and have some girlfriends that you can shop with, spa with, eat with, go to the movies with, and take girls-trips. Have a circle of friends who will encourage you, uplift you, and challenge you. Take time for yourself. Take a bath by candlelight using some bath bombs and enjoy the quiet breathing in and out.

 

 Before you write me off, answer these questions. Do you want someone to lean on you to the point that you become their entire life? Do you want someone to be available 24/7 and at your beck and call obeying their every command? Do you want someone to need you, especially in times that you cannot even help yourself? I honestly believe this would be hard for someone to live day in and day out with this type of pressure.   

 

 Do you want to make someone your life besides, Jesus? Do you want or need someone to complete you besides Jesus? Do you need anyone, but Jesus? 

 

The Book of Genesis says, “The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Keyword ~ “helper” ~ to me, this is someone who compliments and not someone to be their all and all. 

Leaning into Jesus and His Word and focusing on pleasing God will set us free to have one of the greatest marriages. Not free of challenges, but a different kind of marriage. I’m willing to say that having a marriage built on a solid foundation of God’s word and His instructions that we find throughout scripture will release bondages. Seriously! Marriages that operates based upon biblical principles frees you to truly love one another and focus on Christ in the center of your marriage. 

 

 I have been married for 28 years to the same man, and we follow Eph. 5. I submit to my husband as I submit to the Lord. He loves me as Christ loves the church, and I love him. Now that is out of the way; we do have disagreements. Sometimes days without seeing eye to eye, yet, our love for God and the covenant we made to one another before God always brings us back to the center…the very center of Jesus and His love for us. 

A beautiful woman of God replied, stating her disagreement with my response. She shared that she NEEDS her husband, and he COMPLETES her. She continued by writing, “Without my husband, I am nothing.” 

 

It would have been easy for me not to reply, but I had to. I wanted her to know that she’s a child of the Most High God with or without a man in her life. So, I did. I explained to her that she is someone. She’s a daughter of the King. I shared she is completed in Jesus. 

 

That ended our conversation. 

 

On the one hand, I say it’s complicated. On the other hand, I ask, “Is it?” 

What are your thoughts? Please join the conversation, and let’s help those who may visit this blog post. 

 

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Posted in 2020, Empowerment, When You Don't Know What To Do

Those Sinful Twin Sisters

“The acts of the sinful nature are obvious:…jealousy… envy…” (Galatians 5:19-21)

JEALOUSY is the fleshly disapproval for how God is blessing somebody else. Its twin sister ENVY is wanting for yourself what somebody else has. In either case, these selfish attitudes express a deep disregard and disrespect for God. You literally communicate to God, “I don’t like how You are treating me.” Sister girl…Get over it! Here is your prescription for healing from jealousy and envy:

  1. Accept the fact that you don’t control, dictate, or communicate to God what He is to do. The Lord knows exactly how to bless you. Maybe the reason He won’t bless you like you want is because of your attitude.
  2. Ask God’s forgiveness and continued cleansing of your heart. (1 John 1:9)
  3. Begin praising God for what you have (and what you do not have). (1 Thessalonians 5:18)

Just as important is being able to praise God for how He chooses to bless others. (Romans 12:15) Swallow these three pills and look for God to work in your life. Be healed in the name of Jesus from “jealously!”

From the book “Ready to Change My Name” by Gail E. Dudley

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Let’s talk about fear to faith. What’s your faith journey from fear?

Posted in Empowerment, Marriage, Ministry, Prayer

It Hurt so Bad

The agony.

The pain.

The unknown.

As a prayer mentor and intercessor, I have learned that God will call His children to many things, and the mantle He placed upon Ministry in Motion Int’l intercessors mid-January 2020, had become a ginormous feat. We tried to dodge this particular prayer call; however, I could not ignore His request, especially after receiving two text messages and a telephone call within the hour of God impressing upon me to pray for marriages, including my own. There was a heightened level of discernment that marriages were under attack.

Loneliness.

Isolation.

It hurt so bad. It all began with, “Will you marry me?” Then the day arrives when the couple recites the following:

“I, (Name), take you, (Name), to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God’s holy law, in the presence of God I make this vow.”

I do!

Three years. Five years. Can we make it? Will we make it?

Ten years. Twenty years. Celebrate or separate?

The struggle is real. Don’t allow anyone to tell you otherwise.

I took to YouTube to record a short devotional and a prayer. With less than 100 subscribers, the ministry received more than 300 prayer requests, and they are still pouring into our inbox. Women far and near are asking for prayer for their strength, their husband, and their marriage. Some are women in their twenty’s, and others requesting prayer are in their sixties. Truthfully, we had a woman request prayer who is 79 years old.

Christian marriages are under attack. The weight upon the shoulders of husbands is taking a toll. Wives are frustrated and stressed, unsure of what to do or how to do it. Communications have been limited. What’s the saying, “Men only have so many words per day.” Well, women want to talk. Can men be vulnerable?

Tears

Outbursts

Anxiety

Arguments. Talk to me. I don’t want to. Slammed doors. Silence.

He is called the prince of the power of the air. (Ephesians 2:2]

Disobedience

Things begin to spiral out of control. Disagreements around downsizing homes, over the limit credit cards, medical bill balances, student loans, children’s needs, intimacy, money coming in does not match the money going out. Real-life. Real issues.

What do we do? It hurt so bad.

#WhenYouDontKnowWhatToPray…Pray and keep on praying.

Pray in this manner:

God, “For this reason (my marriage) I kneel before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name. I pray that out of Your glorious riches You may strengthen me and my husband with power through Your Spirit in my inner being, so that Christ may dwell in our hearts through faith. And I pray that we, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that we may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.” [Ephesians 3:14-21 NIV] Note: I have taken the scriptures as a prayer for you to pray for you and your marriage.

Scriptures to study and pray for your marriage.

  1. Lord, though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. [Ecclesiastes 4:12 NIV]
  2. Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. {Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 NIV]
  3. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. [1 Corinthians 7:5 NIV]
  4. May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. [Proverbs 5:18 NIV]
  5. Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. [Ephesians 5:21]
  6. There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. [1 John 4:18 NIV]
  7. And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, [Philippians 1:9 NIV]

Let’s talk. How can we pray for you and your marriage? Please share in the comment section.

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Announcement: God has called me to host a 24-hour prayer summit for wives only. February 28 – 29, 2020, in central Ohio. Can you come? Women are coming by cars and vans loads — no registration fee. Just get here, pay for your hotel room (can have up to four in the room), take care of your food, and give $25.00 to help with covering the meeting room space.

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Posted in 2020, Authority, Do Something, Empty-Nest, Husbands, Marriage, Ministry, Prayer, Uncategorized, When You Don't Know What To Do, wives, Women

Marriage: Prayer in Motion

It’s not often that I wake with prayers rolling off the tip of my tongue. Name after name and married couples after married couples were lifted to Jesus. Still dark in my room, I stumbled to the bathroom to begin my day. The shower temperature took forever to warm, and while I waited, God started to flash images of marriages before me. God was speaking.

I questioned Jesus. My first ask was, “God, me?” It was one of those audible moments when God responded, “Yes, you.” Yet, I asked again and this time more specifically. I uttered these words, “God, are you asking me to lead a season of praying for marriages?” He responded again, “Yes, you.” Hmmm, was my reply that signaled doubt. So, I asked for the third time. “God, this is Gail. Let me rephrase my question for clarification. Are you asking me to lead women to pray for their husbands and their marriages, while being transparent about my own?” God responded, “Gail, yes, you.”

So it began. With hesitation, I said yes. By the time I walked out of the bathroom, my cellphone had shown a missed call. It was a friend of mine. Instead of listening to the voicemail, I dialed her number. On the other end was a friend who was sobbing. Between weeping, I could hear her trying to tell me a story of an incident between her and her husband. We talked, we prayed, and we ended the call. Within seconds a text message came through that said, “Gail, it’s early, but I need you to pray for my husband and me. It’s urgent.” No sooner than I responded to her text message, another one appeared on my iPhone screen with yet another urgent message to pray for their marriage.

God wants willing vessels to serve. I said yes, and he confirmed immediately that for such a time as this, he had called me to this mission.

The focus is marriage prayers. The angle is wives praying for their marriages, specifically their husbands who appear to be under attack. God has shown me that if the enemy can attack the husbands, it could set off a firestorm within homes around the world. Thank God! We are victorious, and we are ready to pray.

Let’s begin. Subscribe to my YouTube for alerts every-time I upload a marriage prayer video. Here are four videos since January 17, 2020. Know someone who could use these prayers and short devotions on marriage? Please share this post and YouTube with them.

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1st Video – Friday Fire: Praying for Marriages (There’s an Urgency) 

2nd Video – Lift The Weight from Husbands Shoulders

3rd Video – Marriage Prayer: Stay the Course

4th Video – Marriage Prayer: Get a Life. Get some Friends.

As God leads, I will continue to upload videos.

I pray you are blessed by them. Have a prayer request? Send to ReadyToPray@gmail.com

 

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Posted in 2020, America, Diversity, Do Something, Uncategorized, When You Don't Know What To Do

Cultural Awareness: MLK Day 2020

Cultural Awareness:
A critical leadership survival tool
(re-post from 4/2018)

In Matthew 28:18–20, Jesus gave us the specific command to “go and make disciples of all nations.” Today we need not go far to experience the nations. Consider the changing world in which we live. Our schools, parks, community centers, commercial markets, and governmental offices display increasing evidence of richness and diversity. Race, age, economic status, religious belief, personal style, educational experiences, ethnic background, and cultural legacy all represent facets of our contemporary mission field. Diversity is all around us, both as a gift to be celebrated and an opportunity to be developed.

Consider the early church emerging from its encounter with God at Pentecost. People unique in language, background, experience, and heritage but with a common cause began to change the world. The apostle Paul served as one of the first cross-cultural missionaries, becoming “all things to all people.” It’s essential for today’s leaders to work effectively in cross-cultural situations and settings. Leaders must develop the awareness, sensitivity, knowledge, and skills needed to respect different cultural values and beliefs to effectively lead and reach communities with the gospel of Jesus Christ.

Often when we think of cultural awareness, we think only of race, gender, or age. Congregations and ministries have been guilty of coming together in superficial ways in the name of diversity. We attempt to craft programs with a “one of each” mentality, handpicking, for instance, someone from an African American context to represent that group, and individuals from a Caucasian context to talk about possibilities from a predominant perspective. After the meeting we sit back and say, “Wow! This is diversity!” But the truth is, we don’t know much more about each other after the meeting than we did before.

Tweetable: “But the truth is, we don’t know much more about each other after the meeting than we did before.” @GailDudley

Our Christian faith intersects with the diverse world around us. If we desire to be faithful, we will ask, “How can I reach people across cultural lines to make an impact with God’s grace and truth?” To reach others for Christ outside of our immediate cultural groups, we must build relationships, learn more about people, acknowledge others’ perspectives, and become transparent about our own cultural groups. It is the same principle we experience in our relationship with God: Spending quality time strengthens familiarity. To understand our neighbors and the nations in our own neighborhoods, no matter their background, we must willingly invest ourselves, our thoughts, our time, and our resources.

A person is not accepted or rejected by God because of her or his race, nationality, or cultural particularity. Why, then, do we feel it necessary to accept or reject someone (both subtly and overtly) based on differences? Social scientists tell us that culture consists of the values, standards, and expectations at work whenever two or more human beings interact. Etiquette, preferences, language, traditions and customs, food, dress, musical tastes, and belief systems all inform and shape culture. Just as culture influences how we view the world and behave, so does it color our interpretation of the behavior of others. Our learned behaviors, prejudices, fears, and stereotypes often negatively interfere with healthy communication and trust. But just as these behaviors are learned, so too can they be unlearned. Our experiences and backgrounds condition us for different responses, different perceptions, and different ways of thinking. Our experiences and our cultural groups determine what we accept as reality and what we simply ignore because it doesn’t register within our view. Because of differences in assumptions and perceptions, we often do not see what does exist and do see what does not exist. Transforming assumptions and perceptions is key to the process of selecting what we choose to believe.

The Bible teaches that we should view others through the eyes of Jesus, not according to appearance, material worth, position, or race. The Bible also teaches that every one of us should continually examine ourselves, our motivations, our perceptions, and our own sinfulness. Christ calls us to the nations for the purpose of building authentic community. This is realized only through the commitment of leaders who are aware and in tune with the wealth and potential of the diverse constituencies we are called to serve. Ultimately, cultural awareness will help us be the catalysts and change agents we are called to be for Christ.

“In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” ~ Martin Luther King Jr.

Enjoy the attached PDF workbook designed by Gail Dudley. Looking for someone to facilitate Cultural Awareness workshops within your church, small group, leadership retreats, or para-church ministries. Click this link:Cultural Awareness_FridayFire3 to download this workbook. Gail is now scheduling dates for spring and summer 2020.